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document.write("The past is what it is. We may accept it, or refuse to do so. We may ");
document.write("lie about it, but we can’t change it. ");
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document.write("(...) we may still think, “I ");
document.write("should have done such-and-such. I knew it at the time, but I didn’t ");
document.write("do it. I could have, and I should have.” What good does this do us? ");
document.write("(...) ");
document.write("it doesn’t equip us with the knowledge of how to ");
document.write("do better in the future, because it doesn’t uncover the reasons why ");
document.write("we didn’t do better in the past. ");
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document.write("We may apply the same attitude toward someone else, “He should have ");
document.write("done such such-and-such. He should have known it. He could have done ");
document.write("better and he didn’t.” ");
document.write("(...) ");
document.write("By blaming the other person, we incite defensiveness on their ");
document.write("part. Perhaps anger or shame, too. We pile unhelpful emotions onto the ");
document.write("situation, burying the facts we need to see. ");
document.write("And we poison our relationship with the other person, destroying trust ");
document.write("in both directions. ");
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document.write("<em>(<a href=\"http://blog.gdinwiddie.com/2007/03/03/bearing-in-mind-that-there-are-many-factors-of-which-i-am-unaware/\">George Dinwiddie</a>)</em> ");
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